Take me home.

& the world will go on

as she has through

vomiting volcanoes,

through silence &


DNA writhes to replicate,

chewing chains of


fueling the chaos &

the ordering of said chaos.

Our age may end,

our self-importance &

petty crime.

Our age is a blip.





There is so much more I want to say about this individual.

Mono came to our house last week drunk and made us both very uncomfortable.

“Eres bonita, eh?” he said to me. “La luna es bonita. Tu eres bonita.”

He gestured to me, the moon, and back to me. He spoke slowly as if to a child. Of course I understood what he was saying. But I didn’t respond in the way he wanted me to so he tried again, even more slowly.

“Tu eres bo-ni-ta. Porque eres delgada, perfecta. Como la luna, bonita. Eh?”

He had his arm around my shoulders, he was touching my hair. I shrank away from him, tried to push his hand away from my head. Eventually the topic changed and I stared purposefully in the opposite direction for a while.

Mono makes me think about humans in a way I’m not used to. I oscillate between feeling disgusted by his crudeness and machismo and feeling a warm friendliness towards him. He’s 50 years old, he can’t read, he beats his wife and never has a good thing to say about his sons. He has a great sense of humor. Mono is an engineer in a way. He solves practical problems with his eyes and hands, telling us that “si la cabeza no se hizo no mas pa’ sostener la mata si no para usarla. Hay que pensarle, morra.”

In Mono’s very specific dialect, that means your head isn’t just there to hold up your hair, you’ve got to use it.

We worked together on the farm, though he worked much harder than Sheila and me. Mono might be the hardest worker I’ve known. He seemed to have endless energy. He was a fisherman before overfishing and acidification made that more difficult in the Sea of Cortes. He’s been a brick mason and a construction worker, he’s transported drugs for the narcos in his panga for various sums. He’s had one year of formal education and he’s not too good for any kind of labor. I’m sure he knows that and I would bet it’s hard for him.

I can’t communicate with him well enough to peek into his head but Sheila can. She says he believes everything he sees on TV.


At some point you stop meeting new people. At some point, upon meeting a new person your thoughts go, “oh, she has Siobhan’s nose! Her quaint views on feminism are just like my Aunt Francis! She has that same dull yet lovely creative soul as Emma!”

It’s the boxes our brains are wired to create closing in, maybe without conscious consent. Structure, classification & judgement are crucial skills. It wouldn’t be possible to live in such a deep and broad world without them. We have to be able to distinguish friend from foe within a conversation or two. We must know animals with shadow-shapes like this are dangerous.

I’m a novelty addict. I’m flighty, not wanting to waste too much time at any one job or in any specific city. Life feels longer when it’s more chaos than grid. Pero, entonces, the grid falls on me in my sleep. I have to work to shake it off now. Sometimes it feels like a fishing net wanting to trap & squeeze the life from my gills. Sometimes I don’t even realize it. Sometimes it’s what I want, what I need. I do see the value in routine & security. After all, it’s the one thing all parenting experts agree on: children can’t thrive unless they can on some level predict their days & we’re all still children. We all, on some level, would really benefit from consistent nap times.

This is the last time I plan to live abroad or on the road for quite a while. I need to get a job with good health insurance and a pension plan. I need to get my shit together soon if I ever want to provide a sturdy childhood for my own hypothetical lap-sitter. & for me, shaking off the routine & the cold I had acquired in Seattle—as well as a partner who had started to feel too much like a grid—was bittersweet. Bitter in part because I know I’ll be stationary at least long enough to get a Master’s, but surprisingly bitter too because I miss the routine. I miss the love I left behind in that city, I miss knowing where everything is. Halfway through my time in Mexico and I’m genuinely looking forward to my return.

I think more than anything else, the grid is coming to represent community. A network of hugs rather than one of barbs and spines. My views are changing perhaps because I’d never had the kind of community I needed before the past couple of years. Most of my years I’ve spent in Ohio, consumed by my own neurosis, sitting in the bottom of a pit all alone. Truly it was a life apart from the one I most recently left.

Is it better to dig one thousand one-foot holes or one one thousand-foot hole?

I guess both. It depends on what you find in them.